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    Weird situation, unsure how to proceed (process sexual abusive situation)

    Hi,

    around two years ago, a childhood-incident popped into my brain. Never thought about it before.

    I can't unshackle myself from it ever since. Thought it would go away, but it's still here, two years later. I have trouble sleeping, concentration problems.

    Well, the thing that happened back then could be considered as a sexually abusive situation (when I was a child, two people lured me in, under false pretenses, forced me to watch pornography with them, touched me, threatened me etc.)

    Now, the standard answer is probably therapy and stuff... but, oh well, the reason I am writing about here in the first place, is because I am pretty much MGTOW (before it got popular) and going with THIS to a therapist feels super-fucking-weird today, given the metoo, Kavanaugh etc. garbage.

    Absolutely unsure how to proceed with this.

    Thoughts?

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    Re: Weird situation, unsure how to proceed (process sexual abusive situation)

    You can metoo yourself here and it won't make the news or be a public discussion everywhere. Childhood traumas can be hard to talk about. Childhood is trauma as we're growing up. Finding out there is no Santa or Easter Bunny or unicorns`can be traumatizing to a young boy growing up. This incident you're writing about sounds like an isolated incident. Try this. Sit down and write a short story about it. Then, give it an alternate ending. Sometimes we need to resolve things in our own minds and we have to wait until our minds are ready to proceed with that process. It can be very therapeutic to take someone who has hurt you, put them in a story, and kill them...or something. I hope this helps.
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    Re: Weird situation, unsure how to proceed (process sexual abusive situation)

    1st post. I suspect this is a woman with made up story looking to make noise on a men's forum or a previously banned member.

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    Re: Weird situation, unsure how to proceed (process sexual abusive situation)

    Intro for new member is a must.

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    Re: Weird situation, unsure how to proceed (process sexual abusive situation)

    Dropping the bomb on you first post is a dodgy way to join a forum. All about them too. I'm with 743 R, we got a woman.
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    Re: Weird situation, unsure how to proceed (process sexual abusive situation)

    Quote Originally Posted by 743 Roadmaster View Post
    1st post. I suspect this is a woman with made up story looking to make noise on a men's forum
    That is a whacky conclusion to say the least. Isn't this basically saying, if you're a man, you cannot have such an incident in your life? How misandrist is that? All the pedophilia in schools (especially by female teachers there), church, prison rapes etc etc. beg to differ quite a lot.

    But anyway, I've wrote about this on a more "mainstream" subreddit over a year ago, asking for their advice:

    old.reddit .com/r/MenGetRapedToo/comments/6uzrp4/feeling_guilty_for_seeking_therapy_albeit_for (remove the space before .com)

    I've went to a therapist, but that went horribly wrong and lasted only for a few minutes. Never again bothered with all of that, but as I said, I still cannot get fully rid of it, and that's why I posted here. I was interested what like-minded people would advice, because, although not "card-carrying", I am pretty much in the MGTOW-alley (just read the reddit-post if you have doubts).

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    Re: Weird situation, unsure how to proceed (process sexual abusive situation)

    Well GSW, I'm sorry I called you a woman if your for real. But it's a damn strange first post, about what we usually get from trolls.

    My employer would pay for a therapy session every now and then. Once the boss suggested I go, another time I was mad, and went just to get three afternoons off. All the people I talked to were pleasant folks who would of helped if they could. It's just there wasn't much could be done with my situation.

    You got a therapist that's not helpful, or worse, then you need a new one. Don't let them tell you there's anything wrong with wanting another person either. I could of asked for someone else and no one would a thought a thing about it.
    Every day I make the world a little bit worse.

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    Re: Weird situation, unsure how to proceed (process sexual abusive situation)

    I am confused.....what specifically does your past experience, if real, have to do with MGTOW?
    "To marry means to halve oneís rights and double oneís duties" - Arthur Schopenhauer "
    "A bachelor is a man who didnít make the same mistake once."

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    Re: Weird situation, unsure how to proceed (process sexual abusive situation)

    Weird thing to ask. Do what you want of course. Throw an accusation, toss some shaming around, make a temper tantrum, then get called out on it. The Metoo way of handling things.

    Or...

    Learn from it, grow from it, and move beyond it. There isn't a man in the world who hasn't had some bad stuff happen to him. I'm no exception. But we do what we must and move past it. Because you don't have a future by living in the past. Because the world just isn't a fair place to begin with. Realise and accept this. Then shrug it off and move on with your life.

    Whichever option you choose, you'll reap the consequences, both positive and negative, of your own decision. It will not be made for you.

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    Re: Weird situation, unsure how to proceed (process sexual abusive situation)

    Quote Originally Posted by GoingSpaceWay View Post
    That is a whacky conclusion to say the least. Isn't this basically saying, if you're a man, you cannot have such an incident in your life? How misandrist is that?
    Riiiight.

    GSW - please head to the 'New Member Intros' forum and do an intro along the guidelines in the 'how to intro' sticky post.

    People who have not posted an intro are not welcome to gatekeep with respect to what kinds of reply are and are not acceptable on this forum.

    There's a good chance that people here will choose to not engage with you at all any further until you post an intro just as everyone else has done.

    PM sent.
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