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    Modern coping methods of relationships

    Hopefully this has not been posted, it is a couple years old.

    Here is a couple interesting articles from psychology today. I found it a good read that starts to get it what is going on in society. Well one article, from male and female perspective about modern relationships. The first one is "where have all the good men gone", and how females are responding in today's western society. The second article, for the most part gets the man's perspective, and how this "double bind" of women's needs has men conforming into PUA's, white knighting (said more politically correct), finding the NAWALT or rejecting women all together and opting out.

    Part 1, where have all the good men gone?

    Why Women Can't Find a Good Man | Psychology Today

    Part 2

    Why Are Men Frustrated With Dating? | Psychology Today

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    3) Mixed-Mating—
    yet other women join the "best of both worlds" club. Here, think polyamory, open relationships, or a hot boyfriend on the side.Evolutionary psychology indicates that women sometimes use this strategy to seek the most stable and supportive partnership from one man, and the best genes for children from another. When women can't find it all in one guy, some choose to mix-and-match. For a more detailed analysis, see Cashdan (1996).


    I notice the article leaves out the fact that many women engaging in this practice fail to tell their boyfriend or husband that the relationship is, in fact, an open one (for her).
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    Re: Modern coping methods of relationships

    So... Alpha fux;beta bux

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    Re: Modern coping methods of relationships

    Quote Originally Posted by Why Are Men Frustrated
    4) Opting Out - finally, some men choose opting out as the best option for them. This is sometimes known as the "men going their own way" (MGTOW) movement. Essentially, these are the guys who have been frustrated and punished to the point that they see no further incentive to relate. Rather than spending their efforts on material success to attract a partner, they focus on making themselves happy. Although these guys are often socially-shamed as "not growing up", in fact, they are arguably just reacting to the lack of outside motivation...and taking care of themselves.
    So ... Alpha fux. Beta bux. Zeta - taken from Zeta Persei, the bright star held to represent the foot of Perseus crushing the body of Medusa under its heel - gets the fux out of there, and lives his own life, taking care of his own needs and desires and pleasures and well-being. That's us, gentlemen. That's our birthright.
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    Re: Modern coping methods of relationships

    Quote Originally Posted by William Noy View Post
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    I notice the article leaves out the fact that many women engaging in this practice fail to tell their boyfriend or husband that the relationship is, in fact, an open one (for her).
    All relationshits with twats are open for her. This is implied. The cunt swings on the vine to the better deal at the first opportunity.

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    Quote Originally Posted by secularscientist View Post
    All relationshits with twats are open for her. This is implied. The cunt swings on the vine to the better deal at the first opportunity.
    Part of the problem is even when a guy is wise to his woman's ways and lets it be known to her stable of men that she's married, too many guys ignore the bro code these days.

    Basic respect for other men: You don't sleep with a girl who is officially with another man. I don't care how evil, boring, bad in bed, whatever she says he is. If he really were that bad, she wouldn't be going home to him.
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    Re: Modern coping methods of relationships

    Quote Originally Posted by BeijaFlor View Post
    So ... Alpha fux. Beta bux. Zeta - taken from Zeta Persei, the bright star held to represent the foot of Perseus crushing the body of Medusa under its heel - gets the fux out of there, and lives his own life, taking care of his own needs and desires and pleasures and well-being. That's us, gentlemen. That's our birthright.
    One million points!

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    women will be scrambling over the cracked wreckage of a dead civilization, beating each other over the head with sticks and rocks, for the chance to be allowed inside the safety of a man's home.

    I couldn't care less what they think of relationships today.

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    Re: Modern coping methods of relationships

    Quote Originally Posted by William Noy View Post
    Part of the problem is even when a guy is wise to his woman's ways and lets it be known to her stable of men that she's married, too many guys ignore the bro code these days.

    Basic respect for other men: You don't sleep with a girl who is officially with another man. I don't care how evil, boring, bad in bed, whatever she says he is. If he really were that bad, she wouldn't be going home to him.
    The old "Bro Code"...

    When alpha-moneybags listens to how abusive you are and hears a million things to make him hate the "chump" that is trying to help her have a better life, because he bought the bullshit about her baby-daddy...

    She will fuck alpha.

    She will hide it and subsequently punish the "chump" that doesn't measure up.

    Alpha doesn't care either way...


    But, if the "chump" finds out, and he doesn't do anything too stupid while his brain begins to process the situation, he will end up here...

    Most chumps over react and dig their own grave, over-correcting themselves, over compensating to keep the guilt stricken, poor helpless princess-victim happy...

    I ended up here.

    There is only a bro-code with your bros...It does not apply to other swinging dicks that may encounter your precious cupcake on a girls night out...

    Example:

    An ex-twat of mine once came back from a girls night out and told me she was backstage getting hit on by some band members. She proceeded to tell me how when one guy was making advances on her she told him she had a daughter at home, thinking that by putting that out there and he continued to pursue her, it would validate her fucking him because he's cool that she has a kid.

    Why didn't she tell him that she had a boyfriend? Simple: I was just a "chump" to her. The alpha doesn't want to hear that, that's shutting him down coming from her...

    Why didn't she tell him that she really had 2 daughters? Simple: I was just a "chump" as stated above, and two kids might be a deal breaker for alpha if one isn't...

    Why didn't she tell him that she had a boyfriend that was putting her kids to bed that night and she shouldn't be flirting with a rock band behind stage?
    Simple: She was living in the moment and trying to forget about the chump at home thinking that he's helping and the two children that she irresponsibly brought into this world.

    This is all twats. Fickle twats.

    AWALT

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    I caught two guys my ex was sleeping with. I didn't know she was at the time, but they definitely acted like they wanted to date her. So I told them to f#@k off. They didn't, they just got sneaky. And I don't know why a dude would think that kind of behavior is okay.

    Now, some chick with tits that big comes onto me, I'm going to have a hard time saying no too. But guess what? The secret is it's not really that hard to turn it down especially if you know she's married.

    You don't stick your dick in the middle of some other guy's family. I don't give is $#!t what story the wife/mom spins you. Unless she's separated, you automatically get your man-card taken away for that kind of thing.
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    Re: Modern coping methods of relationships

    Quote Originally Posted by William Noy View Post
    I caught two guys my ex was sleeping with. I didn't know she was at the time, but they definitely acted like they wanted to date her. So I told them to f#@k off. They didn't, they just got sneaky. And I don't know why a dude would think that kind of behavior is okay.

    Now, some chick with tits that big comes onto me, I'm going to have a hard time saying no too. But guess what? The secret is it's not really that hard to turn it down especially if you know she's married.

    You don't stick your dick in the middle of some other guy's family. I don't give is $#!t what story the wife/mom spins you. Unless she's separated, you automatically get your man-card taken away for that kind of thing.
    Again, it comes back to being the wife's fault...

    I've had "separated" wives approach me...Many times...Many times they "separate" just for this reason...

    Perhaps your wife was telling those guys that you were separated, but still "seeing each other"...

    The woman is at fault.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Malinois View Post
    Again, it comes back to being the wife's fault...

    I've had "separated" wives approach me...Many times...Many times they "separate" just for this reason...
    Yep. But I'll tell you what, all those Old Testament laws regarding adultery? ... The ones feminists complain about having a double standard with different requirements on women? Yeah, they actually make a lot of sense if you happen to know about the true hypergamous nature of the average woman.*

    *Please note that this is an academic observation regarding the potential rational basis for unequal punishment, not advocacy for specific punishments listed.
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    Quote Originally Posted by William Noy View Post
    Yep. But I'll tell you what, all those Old Testament laws regarding adultery? ... The ones feminists complain about having a double standard with different requirements on women? Yeah, they actually make a lot of sense if you happen to know about the true hypergamous nature of the average woman.
    You got that right!

    A man should respect a married man's wife, I agree. The problem is when these married women decide not to adhere to their vows of loyalty. Marriage was created by God, not the government. And, so the laws and rules that dictate what a marriage is, resides in the religion of said marriage. But, western society has pushed all of this aside, proclaiming that government has the final say so.

    The bible teaches use to abide by laws created by men that create the laws in the name of God...When these law makers are atheist, or already living in ways that do not represent the word of God, such as homosexuals, they are themselves creating the problem.

    The Bible forbids homosexuality, making homosexual marriage a perversion. Yet, government allows it? I don't believe the government has the right to decide what constitutes marriage because it is a creation of God.

    Sorry for the preaching but, this is similar to what has destroyed the institution of marriage for heterosexual marriage.

    Since the government has complete control of it, it is, in my view, perverted. It is no longer a safe institution to be a part of because there is no accountability on part of the enforcer, government.

    I've read your intro, and dammit I was almost you. The bitches are allowed by the government and encouraged by all media to be the feral, empowered woman...Power corrupts...These bitches are going the distance to act out all of their impulsive feeeeelings, however and when ever they want...And the only thing good, upstanding men can do is watch in disgust...

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    As it is written.

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    Quote Originally Posted by secularscientist View Post
    All relationshits with twats are open for her. This is implied. The cunt swings on the vine to the better deal at the first opportunity.
    Yes, but they make sure they have their next guy 'locked down' first before letting go of the other guy. There are women out there who will never be single because of this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Macavity View Post
    Yes, but they make sure they have their next guy 'locked down' first before letting go of the other guy. There are women out there who will never be single because of this.
    According to my brother-in-law (ex), my ex-mother-in-law did this her entire life. Which is where, he thinks, his sister (my ex-wife) learned the behavior.
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    Re: Modern coping methods of relationships

    I would not fuck my friend`s gf or wife flat out , someone`s else gf or wife only after weighting the dangers ... Otherwise i have no bro code cause then i would be a virgin ...cause girls always have bfs always ...and i never fucked a girl that wasnt in relationships to someone else .

    Bro code is bullshit in general .

    I look at other men i do not know as whether i can knock them out with under 3 blows or over ... They do the same looking at me . So all i want is a clean fight so to speak , touch them up and its show time .

    What is not bullshit is that women win more when you fuck them ... and mark the change of figures of speech ... women now say " i fucked him .."
    You cant keep a player down!
    Dont hate him , hate your fuking bullshit game !

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    So in other words as an autistic man I live on everyone's sufferance.

    *sigh*.

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    I figure half the time the guy doesn't even know the girl already has someone -- sure happened to me!
    And when her lips so sweetly move
    The soul such height attain,
    You're free, yet would no longer rove
    But lay you down in chains.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ancient Sunlight View Post
    I figure half the time the guy doesn't even know the girl already has someone -- sure happened to me!
    I know.. I was just talking about instances where the guy is made aware.

    You'd think that would make him skedaddle just for drama avoidance.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Malinois View Post
    The old "Bro Code"...
    There is no bro code. It's evolutionary unacceptable. Men spread their seed. To do that they need women, not men. It's a free-for-all out there, most people have no internal moral compass. Stop with the wishful thinking and accept the nature of the animal... Men that wouldn't hit that, given the opportunity, are EXTREMELY rare.
    If you see an average human as a logical actor you might be dissapointed. If you see them as an input/output device you might not be.



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