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    What makes women think men don't "settle"?

    Read an article about cupcake having to "settle" for someone other than the man of thier dreams. If a man came up with a "list" of requirements and published it, the harpies would loose thier voices screamming so much.
    Once my first wife told me how much she "loved" me cuz I would settle for something close enough.( I was looking at a vehichle). Bout bit my toung off not saying " I settled for you".
    Looking at the dregs out there now, I feel sorry for the young men whom are going to have to "settle" for some fat, green haired, tattoo covered pig, who will need help waddling down the isle.
    I never got the woman I was REALLY looking for, but, alas, I settled for what was kinda close enough.
    Five years later, she ran off, and life hasn't been too bad. I ain't "settled" ever again either.
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    Re: What makes women think men don't "settle"?

    I wonder why women seem to be in a kind of wilful denial that 80% of the male species has already been "shunned" by women....
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    Re: What makes women think men don't "settle"?

    It's classic myoptic projection.

    A 6 SMV female gets pumped and dumped by an 8 SMV male. According to her fuzzy hamster math... her 6 SMV + his 8 SMV make her an IMMACULATE 14 on a 10-point scale!

    So she pretends that ALL MEN NEVER SETTLE IN HER FANTASY WORLD. And that planet that the Star Trek Enterprise has never visited (since it doesn't actually exist) men are the deluded ones, not her!

    . That way her precious little ego can be SAVED from any introspection thus constructive criticism from herself. That way she can pretend to be a 14 and still treat men an SMV point ABOVE HER as if she's better than them! The worser half of her gender does anyways.

    If you flip the genders and have an 8 SMV women passively pump and dump 6 SMV man-- he just chuckles to himself and thinks: t was nice while it lasted. She's probably a little out my league. Next!

    He's a realist whereas she is an entitled brat.
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    Re: What makes women think men don't "settle"?

    Most guys I know pretty much had to settle for a used up hoe in order to have children because none of them are rich.

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    Re: What makes women think men don't "settle"?

    Men are quite familiar with 'settling.' Most of today's bachelors have seen their fathers, older brothers and uncles during the divorce court settlement process. The smart ones choose not jump into the wood chipper.

    Settling is a process of selecting among options and discarding the others. Some tend to recognize that the other options are no longer viable. Others cling to the options so they have a legitimate excuse later on for changing their mind.

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    Re: What makes women think men don't "settle"?

    It is interesting how different a man looks at marriage vs a woman. For a man if she is not totally a dog, cooks ok, spreads her legs at night a man will put up with some nonsense. Add in the magic 3 of dose not nag, spend the budget, and is faithful the guy will walk around thinking he found a unicorn.

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    Re: What makes women think men don't "settle"?

    By men, I am guessing she is talking about the top 5%? If I was in that range, why should I settle? Marriage is about moving up the social ladder, not down! That is what is it was and it will always be that way. Forget modern notions of love and romance!

    If women expect men to 'settle', then it's only fair that women should 'settle'. But no, they want chads to settle, is basically what they are saying.

    Interesting thing is that once the chad becomes a 'civilised father' she instantly loses interest in him and looks for a bad boy.

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    Re: What makes women think men don't "settle"?

    To sum it up: Women think that way because almost every time even a 12-year old girl uploads a selfie to Facebook, she is called a beautiful princess (as if she was not already narcissistic enough). She gets this treatment from older women (usually relatives), from other girls—and increasingly from boys as she gets older. By the time she is, say, 16, it is firmly rooted in her mind that she is one. A princess. A queen. A goddess. While a man…well, he is just a lowly creature. Thus, a woman always settles, and a man never does.

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    Re: What makes women think men don't "settle"?

    Beause they aim too high and those men won't settle for a woman as far below them as she is.
    Marrying a woman is like taking a shit upside down every day for the rest of your life. Don't do it!

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    Re: What makes women think men don't "settle"?

    Quote Originally Posted by Zoidberg View Post
    To sum it up: Women think that way because almost every time even a 12-year old girl uploads a selfie to Facebook, she is called a beautiful princess (as if she was not already narcissistic enough). She gets this treatment from older women (usually relatives), from other girls—and increasingly from boys as she gets older. By the time she is, say, 16, it is firmly rooted in her mind that she is one. A princess. A queen. A goddess. While a man…well, he is just a lowly creature. Thus, a woman always settles, and a man never does.
    When that bubble breaks and princess realizes she was never princess, stand back and watch the mushroom cloud. Then princess will run to the only thing that will worship her. Cats, lot and lots of cats.

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    Re: What makes women think men don't "settle"?

    'Tis a shame, yes. I'm compiling some thoughts about that actually... how social media, more then first wave feminism, has shaped the current generation, especially the female side. Women tend to form social networks naturally, with a few "alpha" women guiding that collective. In the past this wasn't much of a problem since these networks, when cast over a wide area, suffered from latency and unidirectional communication (your typical pop star "inspiring" teens). With the advent of the internet, and subsequently social media, these social networks ballooned to an international scale, limited only by a language barrier. Communication was now instantaneous if you wanted it to be, to anyone who could understand you. And they could communicate back. The internet basically provided the most vocal alpha females (who naturally happen to be dominant) with an insane powerboost. Female instinct is to follow the will of the community/collective, for fear of being cast out by it, which in primitive times was a death sentence (hence the instinct).

    If you want to kill feminism, kill tumblr and facebook. But I'm not advocating for that. Just as men are awakening to their shattered roles and reassert their own place by basically denying these women their providers (and if neccesary, denying it through the state as a proxy by not providing for any welfare state either), so will women need to come to the conclusion that they're not going to enjoy the life of a provider on top of caregiver. I see that happening, but this generation's a wash for the most part. Felix Cattus shortages in 2 decades.
    Marriage is dead. But it doesn't need to come back as far as I'm concerned. What does need to come back is a clear differentiation between roles, so that everyone knows what they can expect. Right now I'm seeing a lot of expectations put on men while women just get a pass on everything... Well, everything except a guys taste. Funny little things, these instincts of ours. They tell us when a partner is not healthy. But I ramble... Need to condense these thoughts further.

    Women have to settle because they remain irresponsible girls far too long. They're on a clock as far as attracting a man goes. And an attitude on top of fading looks is just a recipe for disaster. That attitude signals an unhealthy mental state. Man's instincts do pick up on that. It is not attractive. At all.

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    Re: What makes women think men don't "settle"?

    Quote Originally Posted by FrostByte View Post
    When that bubble breaks and princess realizes she was never princess, stand back and watch the mushroom cloud. Then princess will run to the only thing that will worship her. Cats, lot and lots of cats.
    This is a popular sentiment in MGTOW circles, especially among those of us who still harbor some anger after swallowing some bitter red pills. Haha, there is only cats for those women! Perhaps. But what ratio of women end up this way? As I alluded to in another thread, I doubt that cats are the future for most women. (Sure, there are outliers.) I doubt it because there is no shortage of pussy beggars, as far as I can tell. So it all boils down to her willingness to settle. Only a minority that absolutely refuses to settle for anybody less than the blond prince with his white limousine has to live with cats.

    Where I live I can see three main groups of women that live without a man: (1) Widows. They’ve got their pensions and their homes (and their inheritance). Why would they want a man? For company? They can chit-chat with the neighbor ladies. To do manly work around the house? Yes, this may be a problem for the poorer ones, especially if they have no near relatives. The others can afford to simply pay somebody to do those things, or recruit some relatives. Or what the hell, any widow can simply answer a personal ad. I can see 50-, 60- and 70-year old men looking for women in the only newspaper I still read, but I have yet to see an older woman’s personal ad… (2) Morbidly obese women. They can barely walk. The less obese, no matter how ugly they are, have men. And children. (3) A few childless women in their 30s still living the party life, at least on the weekends. Or when they take long vacations. They’ve got money, so average men are way beneath them. They dream of famous singers, or somebody of that caliber. But hey, they still get plenty of dicks.

    These 3 groups of women are a minority here. Of this minority, major candidates for cat ladies are the women of group 3, and some women of group 1 (poor women with no near relatives). So, this place is far from being Japan, where some single women dine in the company of stuffed animals. Granted, it is not the West, either.

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    Re: What makes women think men don't "settle"?

    Women perceive men that settle as beta aka invisible so they don't even consider them part of the conversation. Like always women compare all other men with apex men that do not settle and thus assume this is how all men must operate.

    What women lack in understanding is for a man to settle or not is a huge opportunity cost and choice for a man (eg to have kids).

    For a woman she views her first marriage as a "starter" in comparison. Having kids is also not a huge opportunity cost for a woman either and they are supported by society. Also, society makes it easy on women that settle to be able to hit the reset button.

    If a man chooses to settle on a woman to have kids with there is no easy reset button to hit when the divorce goes nuclear and child support payments start to come in. That man may or may not have known this would be the outcome but had a strong desire to pass on his legacy by having kids.

    From what I have seen is that if a woman settles because she had children by accident with a man it never ends well. This is because she will be encouraged by her circle of friends and family that she is constantly the victim and pulling the weight of the relationship forward. Which ignores that the man also settled to stick around to be a father to his children he may have not wanted but again men like this are invisible to women.

    Then the hamsters complain about men not sticking around to raise their own children. Can't have it both ways where you mistreat the men that settle and try to make it work but also in the same breathe chase away the few men trying to show some integrity for their children.

    Settling in the context of marrying anyone so you don't look like a loser to friends and family is dumb to me. Settling because you have kids with a person though I can understand in comparison.

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    Re: What makes women think men don't "settle"?

    Working for Smokey Bear, I knew a lot of widows and divorcee's. Some who were higher pay grades than I, but still wanting to snag a husband. Partly because they have an Army of grown kids, slacker in laws, and bone lazy grandchildren. Of course not a one a these strong and independent women has the guts to kick these human parasites to the curb. So even though their providers themselves, they'd like to spend your money on their family as well. Then there's the fact that they love to set on their ass, boss people around, and take credit for whatever good things that happen. They want a guy rather they need his money or not.

    Their poorer sisters in my one stoplight village naturally want your money more. Way more. But they'd still expect to own your labor as well as your checkbook. Not much difference between the two, is there? Remember that the next time a rich woman gives you the eye.

    I haven't checked with Dr. Phil, but my guess is there are few pussy beggars looking for forty year olds, and none at all for anyone older than that. Younger women? Yeah, the beggars will still be all over them. But the old ones are toast, least in America. Most a the guys their age are married already. The rest are either dead, or dead set against marriage. There's always exceptions, but for most granny's, the party's over.
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    Re: What makes women think men don't "settle"?

    The only men who don't settle are MGTOW. When the only way to win is not to play, the smartest men will walk away from the table and take their wealth and resources with them. Ironically, this just makes us even more wealthy, successful, and fulfilled, while everyone else just ends up broken and impoverished.

    Being a MGTOW has never been better.


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