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    Hi everyone, I am Riki.

    22 years old, hailing from Singapore.

    Never had a gf, but going my own way still because I had witness and experienced some of the despicable tactics used by them (female school mates, family members). My personal weakness is my anger and my ego, so you can guess how it was manipulated.

    Basically, I am trying to (1) learn more about their tactics, (2)be more mindful and in control of my emotions, (3)overcome lust, anger, anxiety etc. Lurked at the MGTOW subreddit and gained much insight on (1), but the advice on (2) and (3) is scarce. MGTOW subreddit is more of emotional postings rather than counter-tactics or self improvement tips, so here I am.

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    Re: Required Intro

    Not a bad start Riki, but it won't do. We don't need any deep dark secret's, but "they use my weakness against me" is not enough. Anyone can say that. It's not for our entertainment, we need to know if your real or not.
    Drop the needle!

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    How much must I divulge?

    In any case, here is one.

    >Was in a club in university, in charge of marketing and advertising
    >Leader was female, pretty sure from hindsight she is a clinical sociopath
    >Embarrassed me in a group chat by insulting my professionalism. The old me stupidly took the bait, made a fool of myself. Ought to have realized it was a ploy all along
    >Gave vague orders that was open to many interpretations. Plus the problem with art work is that it is subjective; whether it meets the standard is in the eyes of the beholder
    >Did as per instructed
    >Later rejected the artwork, rushed and pressured me to complete it days before my exams
    >Spent revision time on it
    >Did not review or reply to my draft
    >15 days later, engaged someone else to do it because it did not meet her nebulous standard
    >Never was a rush/deadline in the first place
    >Also found out that all the way, she had been spreading rumours behind my back. Curiously she also launched an attack against my buddies and I. Constantly bad mouthing with no shred of remorse. Always obsessed with who is "bros" with who", "bromance" etc
    >In the end, my buddies started dropping out of the club one by one. I had to quit when I was the last one left as I had become effectively alienated

    I hope this is enough. I understand the rationale behind the requirement to share personal experiences, but I must respectfully point out that it is pretty unrealistic for me to state every single anecdote. Furthermore, since I have not been in a relationship, I would not be able to share the typical intimate or "juicy" details

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    Re: Required Intro

    Quote Originally Posted by riki12345 View Post
    My personal weakness is my anger and my ego, so you can guess how it was manipulated. Basically, I am trying to (1) learn more about their tactics, (2)be more mindful and in control of my emotions, (3)overcome lust, anger, anxiety etc.
    You'll get the opposite advice from me as what you are searching for. You think that anger, ego, lust are bad and wrong, but that is just man-hating. The truth is, it is normal and ok for a man - especially a young man - to feel these things. The reason we are told these things are wrong is to separate weak, compliant men from strong men who are able to "just get it". Women - and the whole world - admire the strong.

    It is much like some versions of Zen Buddhism. A novice will have a moment of realization, he will say "Wait a moment! This whole thing is bullshit!", and his master will reply "You have had a very important realization, but you must study Zen for another 20 years to fully grasp it." If the novice meekly accedes to study another 20 years, he has failed, he has shown that his realization is no realization at all.

    Don't let them tell you that you shouldn't be looking at pretty girls, when every item of clothing and stroke of makeup is meant to get men's attention. Don't let them tell you that you ought not be outraged when you are treated shabbilly. Don't let them tell you that you shouldn't have pride or ambition. Lust, anger, and ambition are strengths, not weaknesses.

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    Intro guidelines say to cover relationship history, awareness, and a little about yourself. You have more of less done the first two, though the mod's are the ones who decide what is enough.

    Did you grow up in Singapore?

    Listen to Mr. Wombat Riki, he'll steer you right.
    Last edited by frog; June 3, 2017 at 5:09 PM.
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    Yeah, born and raised in Singapore, completed national service here, now attending university

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Wombat View Post
    Don't let them tell you that you shouldn't be looking at pretty girls, when every item of clothing and stroke of makeup is meant to get men's attention.
    This is what I have suspected. So the conclusion I draw is that I should not feel bad about looking at them.



    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Wombat View Post
    Lust, anger, and ambition are strengths, not weaknesses.
    Care to elaborate? It has been my downfall every time.

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    Anger can make you do things you'd never consider if you wasn't wound up. Don't have to be bad things either. A WW II vet, my old man forgot more about hate and anger than most people ever know. He used all that negative energy to put a roof over moms head, and generally doing what guys did back then. The sky was the limit too, he worked his ass off. Thing is though, he had the icy self control it takes to harness all that horsepower. Most don't, me included.

    Oldest trick in the book is to piss someone off, and then watch them get in trouble. Sort of like American football. Player throws a punch, and the ref march's off 15 yards. What they didn't show was the dirty deed or nasty comment that started it. Some operate on the you look bad, I look good theory. Other's are just dicks. But once you understand what their doing, they have no more power over you.
    Drop the needle!

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    I think you have given enough detail to be given the benefit of the doubt Riki. Welcome aboard.
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