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    Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    My real name is Mark.
    Well I have been married twice and am 2 weeks out from the 2nd divorce being done and over.
    I got 2 grown kids,...Boy 35 and a daughter 28 from the first marriage . Spent 28 years as a Union Industrial Electrician.....had a job accident that messed me up a bit so I cashed out early to enjoy life.
    Met my second wife in 2003 and we were soon married....shortly after I received a nice Workers Comp settlement and decided to leave the Beach where I was living and I bought a house with some land up-state out in the country.
    Wife claimed to be all for that....yeah right! Anyway,..payed off all my bills and hers too past and present at the time and then paid cash for my new(to me) property... Mine!!!!!
    Lots of work was need and my goal was to get to about 80% off grid and enjoy simple wholesome country life. For things to work out it required my wife to have a job of some kind...even if it was at min. wage.......just grocery and light bill money ya know?

    So I cleared 3 of the acres to use for gardens and chicken pen areas.....latter I added a goat lot as well. Planted much much food and had the chickens up to 45 head. In the mean time I'm putting on a new roof...fixing the septic,...building a barn and tractor shed,....re digging the well and generally busting my ass everyday on my land. Now my wife would find a job.....lose it in a month or so and the sit on her ass for 6 months claiming she was helping me... NOT!
    Always asking for a little money for this or that.....useless shit....wants not needs.

    I put 10 years into that property...10 years of sweat, tears,..back breaking labor and literal blood....she?.....might wash a dish or two...maybe burn some food in the evenings....stay on the internet most all day,....and asking for money.

    Now we got married when she was 36 and I was 45...she had 3 mostly grown kids,....and now y'all gonna say DUDE!! WTF? man. I know..I know...but see I had never heard of MGTOW back then and just have here in the past few months. So anyway when we'd fight I was always told and convinced somehow it was my fault. I am old fashion in most ways so I just shut my damn mouth and went on with the program.... well she was told by a doctor she was Bipolar...the menopause two years ago......Hell I always just thought she was crazy.....then ...then here last summer she turned violent....I mean VIOLENT.
    Got hit upside the head from behind with a kitchen fire extinguisher....then punched three times in the face even before I could wipe the blood from my eyes ( now my wife is a Black-Belt in Hapkido) plus she is just a mean old Indian bitch and loves knifes.

    I wanted to knock her fookin teeth down her dayum throat but instead went outside and called the cops.......wrong move!! In S.C. any domestic is always the mans fault....I got hauled to jail by way of the emergency room for stitches. 7 days.

    So lets bring this up to near now..... I couldn't get her grown kids to convince her to leave nor could I get her to seek help.. Other than going to jail for life...I decided to walk away from my house land and 10 years of hard work over this LOON!. In South Carolina property division is a 50/50 split...irregardless of her few hundred bux investment as opposed to my 165K.....she gets half..
    I could go on and on about her being a .. well a whatever,..and I could also go on about the fact I should have know better than to re-marry. So here I am living in a spare bedroom at my Son InLaw and Daughters place...stuck up in the dayum city

    I learned a short while ago about MGTOW and have lurked about on a few sites......I like the look and feel of this on... so here I am.....Am now MGTOW...it took a while but better late than never.

    Hope this intro is ok...if the mods need some more from me I will try to fill in as much as I feel comfortable with.... but as far as the running around with her lovers while I'm busting a*s plowing....i'd just as soon let that lay....it still pisses me off..

    Thanx
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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    Welcome to the forum, your intro seems like a reasonable start to me, and some claim that I am one of the "hard cases" when it comes to intros. You certainly learned a harsh lesson, hopefully your sharing here will help other men not make the same mistake.

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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    Thanx my friend...just hope some will listen to this old fart who has made nearly every mistake possible before learning the FIRE BURNS. Thanx for the welcome also!

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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    Throughout the ages female insanity was powerless to destroy men, we had the power and authority over family and home, all that has changed and you like the multitudes of men subjected to these changes in law, society, and culture have fallen victim and made to suffer the ramifications of those changes. Welcome to the storm shelter, where men no longer suffer from the empowerment of women and their lawfully mandated insane driven tyranny. We are the escape clause to this overwhelming negative change.

    Welcome to the forums, your story is all too common and now the norm in such and abnormal altered state.

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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    I will add this......The Church empowers women control over men....and we blindly follow..... I also left the church!

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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    Thanx MGTOWER

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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    Sorry to hear you lost you place, specially to someone what wouldn't do their share. That's got to hurt. We all got used too, though at least some of us didn't loose much. I was luckier than most. As for getting married twice, well that might of worked out ok years ago. It used to be many second marriages worked. Today, not so much. Anyway, welcome, and I hope we can help.
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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    Thanx Frog

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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    Hello and welcome to GYOW. Yeah your story is too familiar. I'm sorry you lost your home after investing so much time, energy and money into it. I would be enraged as hell. Thank God I never went on that road so I can only imagine how bad it must be.
    I hope you enjoy your stay here. See you around.
    My best wishes to you.
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    Quote Insidious Sid: "Some men are so MGTOW they're not even MGTOW".
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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    Quote Originally Posted by Hoppes#9 View Post
    Now we got married when she was 36 and I was 45...she had 3 mostly grown kids,....and now y'all gonna say DUDE!! WTF? man. I know..I know...
    I had to chuckle with recognition at this point because, yeah, I was thinking exactly that!

    I learned a short while ago about MGTOW and have lurked about on a few sites......I like the look and feel of this on... so here I am.....Am now MGTOW...it took a while but better late than never.

    Hope this intro is ok...if the mods need some more from me I will try to fill in as much as I feel comfortable with....
    Usually we like to also know what hobbies and activities you enjoy but after reading your testimony I can see where all of your energies were spent!

    Welcome, and thank you for choosing us.
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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    Quote Originally Posted by Hoppes#9 View Post
    I will add this......The Church empowers women control over men....and we blindly follow..... I also left the church!
    The Church abandoned men and the divine law so it's only natural that men adopt natural law and abandon the church, I too witnessed the gynocentric takeover of the church, women were freed to overrun everything and drive it to ruins. The Church is no exception, I was forced off the alter by an angry woman that thought I was out of place, I wasn't, not until she came along, by rights I should have slapped her off her feet, but that's been unrighteously outlawed, therefore we can see the law has been gynovcentrically molested making women king and men jokers and slaves to their tyranny. Unless we abandon everything they inundate and go our own way...

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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    To my son who is in his 30's....mgtower, these things seem normal to him and his age group. But for older guys,...we can see how this cancer has taken over..

    Speaking on the phone the other day to a friend and I asked what he thought would happen to women when a SHFT or crisis comes about...; He thinks within a few months time women will become very different creatures...probably due to most of them being kicked to the streets as useless trash..

    I can see that, as their only value will be silent cooperation and a willingness to work at that point.

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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    Quote Originally Posted by Hoppes#9 View Post
    To my son who is in his 30's....mgtower, these things seem normal to him and his age group. But for older guys,...we can see how this cancer has taken over..

    Speaking on the phone the other day to a friend and I asked what he thought would happen to women when a SHFT or crisis comes about...; He thinks within a few months time women will become very different creatures...probably due to most of them being kicked to the streets as useless trash..

    I can see that, as their only value will be silent cooperation and a willingness to work at that point.
    A very true and common prophetic proverb comes to mind after reading what you said; Pride goeth before the fall, and likewise great is the pride therefore great shall be the fall...

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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    Quote Originally Posted by Natural Born MGTOW View Post
    Hello and welcome to GYOW. Yeah your story is too familiar. I'm sorry you lost your home after investing so much time, energy and money into it. I would be enraged as hell. Thank God I never went on that road so I can only imagine how bad it must be.
    I hope you enjoy your stay here. See you around.
    My best wishes to you.
    Enraged? Oh yeah buddy!! But i'm now pissed at myself just as much for having taken so long in my life to see the hard truth about things.
    Thnx for the Welcome!

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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    Quote Originally Posted by Unboxxed View Post
    I had to chuckle with recognition at this point because, yeah, I was thinking exactly that!



    Usually we like to also know what hobbies and activities you enjoy but after reading your testimony I can see where all of your energies were spent!

    Welcome, and thank you for choosing us.
    You know what? As I was typing, the Irony of it hit me like a brick......I had to laugh a bit at my own stupidity and blindness.
    Now with plenty free time on hand I need to find a hobby I guess....
    Hey thanx for the Welcome as well!

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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    Quote Originally Posted by mgtower View Post
    a very true and common prophetic proverb comes to mind after reading what you said; pride goeth before the fall, and likewise great is the pride therefore great shall be the fall...
    very true! Don't believe many will have any sexual appeal once the "makeup" and cosmetics are gone and they are dirty and sweaty from working to stay alive. And if that streak of pride is still there,..well they can sit in a dark cave and freeze to death.
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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    The modern paradigm of male female relationshits is TOAST! Personally, I stuck a fork in it 22 years ago, and since then I've walked away from each and every opportunity to burn myself again and again and again! Another proverb that I applied to myself and my life; "The buck stops here" ending the vicious cycle of rinse and repeat, start over, redo, one more time, one more chance, no, that road is closed and no longer traveled.

    Multitudes of men victimized by feminism and gynocentrism have chosen the same path after objectively assessing the rinse and repeat pattern, and that Sir, has women asking, "where are all the men?" Answer: Ending the vile cycle of rinse and repeat offered by modern women liberated to do as they please without repercussion or accountability, only culpability and legal rewards for their destructive and vile nature.

    Freedom from tyranny is the oldest cry of mankind and I'm not crying anymore, I took action and conducted my own escape.

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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    Quote Originally Posted by Hoppes#9 View Post
    very true! Don't believe many will have any sexual appeal once the "makeup" and cosmetics are gone and they are dirty and sweaty from working to stay alive. And if that streak of pride is still there,..well they can sit in a dark cave and freeze to death.
    Man, that was a tough read, but a necessary one. Thanks for sharing, I like the idea of some peace and quiet on land out here in Texas. No gun range fees or memberships, no city ordinance, and most of all NO NAGGING. Iím 22 years old at the moment and barely started down the path of life or MGTOW as a conscious decision, but stories like this serve as a cautionary tale. I do regret that these lessons came at such cost to some of our formerly married brothers. Keep on keeping on brother!

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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    Very well said mgtower.

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    Re: Always believed it was somehow my fault.

    Quote Originally Posted by DeathAndHisDog View Post
    Man, that was a tough read, but a necessary one. Thanks for sharing, I like the idea of some peace and quiet on land out here in Texas. No gun range fees or memberships, no city ordinance, and most of all NO NAGGING. I’m 22 years old at the moment and barely started down the path of life or MGTOW as a conscious decision, but stories like this serve as a cautionary tale. I do regret that these lessons came at such cost to some of our formerly married brothers. Keep on keeping on brother!
    Maybe it's guys like us from the trenches with our "war stories" and bloody details (no pun intended) that can serve as a bellwether or benchmark for younger guys. My hope and desire was not for pity but for a heads up in regards to that little "angel" we can't live without. That winged babe WILL turn into a HORNED DEMON given enough time..


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