Thread: Ghosts, Are You Being Haunted? "‘Haunting’ is the latest creepy dating trend"

Dating is getting pretty spooky.

Ex-boyfriends and girlfriends are no longer just ghosting — abruptly cutting off communication without warning of a breakup. Now, they’re “haunting,” a term that’s been coined to refer to having an ex still keep close tabs on your social media after they’ve ghosted you.

For Liz, a 25-year-old entrepreneur who declined to give her last name for professional reasons, it’s the latter. She’s caught her exes viewing her Instagram and Snapchat stories, and says it’s a nice ego boost.

“Guys are crazy,” she says. “I made it clear to them that I don’t want to be in touch.”

“Social media makes relationships feel like nothing is ever over or final,” she says. Even after a breakup, “you are able to be in someone else’s world and they’re able to be in yours.”
https://nypost.com/2018/03/28/haunti...-dating-trend/

Cue the cries of "Rape!" in 3 … 2 … 1 …

I think this example represents many relationships. The woman is clearly more valuable than the men, ergo the men are submitting to the woman in 'love'. When women are less valuable than men, the women submit to the man in 'love' or sex.

My ideal relationship would be in a social context where my value was recognized and respected within a group. All my value would be fleeting without such a group. Since I am between a 3 and 5 SMV and don't have much money, my only value according to the bellcurves of SMV would be my amusing inferiority or 'submission' and 'love'.



These guys are still trying to be submissive. They can choose to be content recognizing their actions of submission; or they can recognize the ultimate sexual and reproductive desire that motivates their submission, and remedy their submissive urge.

I empathize with guys wanting to continue 'relationships' and discussion. I also experienced these processes during both my relationships. The first relationship was followed with (her) irrelevant derogatory and demeaning tones and statements. The second relationship ended according to mutual choice and external circumstances; it could not be resuscitated (for her) despite our shared experiences, personal knowledge, and evident concern.

Originally Posted by CPRA

an ex still keep close tabs on your social media after they’ve ghosted you

One more reason not to use social media.

I have an EX like this, we split up about 15 years ago but she somehow gets to know everything about me, I moved house and didn't want her to know where I moved to but somehow she found out!

She's dug out posts from the internet from forums and such like, any comments I have posted, I just don't know why she could be arsed.

I haven't heard of the term 'haunting' , last time I knew she was good old 'bunny boiler'

Still to this day she sends me emails that go directly into my spam folder, I don't know why she wants to stay in touch it's not for sex, she's a queer cookie.

@Hesiod - She's a stalker not a haunter.

I think the mainstream doesn't know what ghosting really is all about if all you do is get sucked back into the bubble of other people's lives I like the mgtow version of ghosting better where I exist in my own world and I choose when I can leave that bubble by choice.