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    Re: My ghost status

    Not me. Though my parents would of liked to see me hitched, it never happened. They never stirred the pot either, like so many of my friends parents did. Lucky me. My background was different than a lot of guys here. Unlike them, my parents did the best they could for me. Rather they liked what I did or not.

    So it looks like more family's than not cant seem to mind their own business.

    Cool name you picked. You should start a short timer calendars like lifers do. Mark those days off one at a time. Maybe it's a little early, but this is important, and the two years should pass quickly.
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    Re: My ghost status

    Until recently my family were continually pressuring me to "find another woman" and saying things like "there's someone out there for everyone" and "you need to get out there...".
    My consistent refusal to do so usually with just a response such as "Why would I want to do that?" and demonstration of how much healthier, wealthier and de-stressed I am, has resulted in my father wanting to know more about red pill issues (he's on his second wife).
    After two years (ish) of being monk and a year or so of being MGTOW there is no question in my mind that I do not need a woman in my life.
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    Re: My ghost status

    Good to see some Brothers here.

    Totally agree. Been building up to full ghost over the past few months and it's liberating.

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    Re: My ghost status

    Honestly one day I just snapped. Deep down I always knew AWALT and started thinking about different events that happened with women in my life. Society tells us that women are "such soft & gentle" creatures. What they won't tell you is how evil & cruel women are. Women have to torture like a cat torturing a mouse. They will NOT stop.

    I have been married and it was downright torture. My wife was a lying, controlling, selfish, slutty, lazy, smelly,and partying whore. You know how there is an opioid epidemic here in the USA? I really hope she becomes another overdose statistic. No matter what she was never wrong. It was so bad that everyone including cops & doctors made excuses for her. If she passed out drunk somewhere 50 miles away from where I was then it was my fault. "Oh you left her, oh you drove her to drink, etc". I cooked, cleaned, worked, paid the bills, etc. I was so depressed & didn't care if I lived or died. Divorce was a blessing. Yes it was painful & expensive but in the end it was worth it. I did date after my divorce and it was hell. I hated being lied to & controlled all over again. I ended it and got my own place. BEST DECISION EVER!! My place stays clean, in order, im able to come & go as I please without a bunch of questions being asked & filling out a police report, no wasted money, and just peace of mind. People will shame you and make up shit about you being lonely and its all bullshit. I never want to date again. People always say dating is fun. No its not. To me it was nothing but a waste of time, money, and effort while dealing with lies , bullshit and head games.

    Quote Originally Posted by May 7 2020 View Post
    I'm new here, sorry if I inadvertently step on toes or offend, not my intention. If I'm not doing this right please let me know. I came here from mgtow.com.

    One of the steps that brought me to MGTOW was questioning why I needed a woman in my life. After divorce I blamed myself for the failure of my marriage and found myself alone without a woman for the first time in almost 20 years. My family wanted me to take up with a woman, any woman as soon as possible because as a single man, I was weakened and vulnerable. I should have a female companion. One group I reached out to was AVEN...a group for asexuals. Today I wear a black ring on my right hand middle fingers as a signal to all who recognize that I have written off women. This really triggered some of my family by going on my own.

    Did anyone else arrive here through that path?

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    Re: My ghost status

    That is the message that needs to be repeated.

    Your life isn't over, it's a new beginning.

    Men have survived the divorce rape and recovered. There are many living examples here.

    Sometimes a chosen path is blocked or even washed out. It's not the end of your journey, just a detour.

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    Re: My ghost status

    What ever doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. I too tried dating after divorce. It was de Ja Vous! I figgured that kicking a skunk was dumb enough the first time, round two? Not so much. I'm certain I made the right descision.
    Of course you thought it was your fault. That's how cupcake operates. I thought so too, until I figured out AWALT. It is said that 80% of divorces are started by women, really makes one wonder just who's fault it REALLY is.
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    I ghost now because women are fucking crazy. Dangerous and predatory. I move unseen for the most part in my day to day life.
    My job makes interaction unavoidable but I do what I can to say only what can’t be left unsaid.
    Small talk is avoided.
    Outside of work I have small circle of friends. Mostly divorced expect one.
    The cirlce is intentionally small. We think alike. AWALT.
    Even the married one says it.

    What a world we live in when us men need to move invisibly in order to stay safe.

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    Re: My ghost status

    Bro - at the end of the day you have the good sense to know what needs to be done. You have the wisdom.
    Getting involved with females is a death trap.
    Doesn't matter how you do it - don't get into something you can't control or need. Peace.
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    I ended up writing woman off after 1 relationship. That woman was the devil and it took my friends at the time point of view to show me what was transpiring. I ditched all woman for a run at celibacy and being a hermit that lasted 7 years until i discovered how easy p4p is lol. My family used to pressure me but then I just started ghosting them for months at a time and they learned not to do that shit. After turning 30 this year life has turned into a cake walk and my career sky rocketed. I think I've also conquered my red pill rage as they call it. I used to hate their guts, now I just avoid them for the most part. Enjoy your life, you never know which day will be your last.

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    Re: My ghost status

    Quote Originally Posted by May 7 2020 View Post
    Freedom is priceless. My God, I wanted to die because I thought my life was over? Life just started over again. Woot!
    And keeps getting better each and every day. Hang in there May!
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    Quote Originally Posted by MoreSky View Post
    Until recently my family were continually pressuring me to "find another woman" and saying things like "there's someone out there for everyone" and "you need to get out there...".
    My own father was like that! Always telling me that "a man needs a woman in his life". What utter bullshit! His own marriage to my mother was horrible. I think he just wanted me. his son, to suffer along with him. I have a lot of resentment for all the shit that he fed me as a kid growing up. He was a grown adult FFS! He really should have know better. Parents really need to stop bullshitting their kids like that...

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    Hi May 7th. I remember reading your story on mgtow.com. I will be rooting for you when you reach your date. I know you have been through a lot.

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    Since I have been monk for the last three years after divorce life has got much better. I have my own workshop, I can work all night if I want to, have dinner when I want watch what I want and go out on my bikes for as long and to wherever I want. My home is tidy clean and ordered. I never come home for find it packed full of screeching women. I used to work 90- 100 hrs a week still she wanted more, now I work 30 hrs yet I have more money. I have two good friends who are also mgtow in reality but don't know it by that name.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Enfield 500 View Post
    Since I have been monk for the last three years after divorce life has got much better. I have my own workshop, I can work all night if I want to, have dinner when I want watch what I want and go out on my bikes for as long and to wherever I want. My home is tidy clean and ordered. I never come home for find it packed full of screeching women. I used to work 90- 100 hrs a week still she wanted more, now I work 30 hrs yet I have more money. I have two good friends who are also mgtow in reality but don't know it by that name.
    Isn't it nice to come home without some screaming harpie to nag you after a long day of work? Also you can spend your money on whatever you like.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Enfield 500 View Post
    Since I have been monk for the last three years after divorce life has got much better. I have my own workshop, I can work all night if I want to, have dinner when I want watch what I want and go out on my bikes for as long and to wherever I want. My home is tidy clean and ordered. I never come home for find it packed full of screeching women. I used to work 90- 100 hrs a week still she wanted more, now I work 30 hrs yet I have more money. I have two good friends who are also mgtow in reality but don't know it by that name.
    Solitude is a wonderful achievement, especially when coupled with room for reflection and opportunities to improve oneself. Great job
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    Back in university days (which would be 30 years ago) I had a breakup with a girlfriend which really messed me up. She was not a bad person (I hear your AWALT rumblings ...) but I took it badly. I went MGTOW and ghosted for three years after that. Of course, at that time terms such as MGTOW and Ghost were not yet a thing. Then, being a young lad wanting a bit of action I adopted the twin philosophy of, "if they aren't hot they will have hot friends" and "shake the tree and see what monkeys fall out". I became a player so-to-speak, there is a term for this in MGTOW, can't for the life of me remember it. It was fun and that is how I met my wife (now ex-wife). To say that the relationship escalated rapidly would be an understatement and in short order we had three children etc. For many many years I worked on the plantation, spent a lot of my life in various states of depression, misery, emotional distress etc. I stuck to things because it was my duty and I love my kids. She ended it, a couple of years ago. On this occasion, unlike my previous experience, I was hugely relieved. The trauma of it all to the kids and my own sense of her betrayal and disloyalty was very unpleasant and I still have elements of rage, but it was ultimately a weight off my shoulders.

    I am not hooking up again, not dating, none of that. Make no mistake, there are some women out there who could break the spell but they are either, married, too young for me etc, and I just know deep down it will end badly. It is not about who did what and who is in the right or wrong, I just know it will end badly and so why would I go there?

    Furthermore, my requirements for any future prospective partner in life are impossible to meet and I don't claim to meet them myself so its not going to happen. In fact that is probably good for its own thread although I presume most respondents would just say they have zero requirements because its just not happening. Worth a try.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MoreSky View Post
    Until recently my family were continually pressuring me to "find another woman" and saying things like "there's someone out there for everyone" and "you need to get out there...".
    My consistent refusal to do so usually with just a response such as "Why would I want to do that?" and demonstration of how much healthier, wealthier and de-stressed I am, has resulted in my father wanting to know more about red pill issues (he's on his second wife).
    After two years (ish) of being monk and a year or so of being MGTOW there is no question in my mind that I do not need a woman in my life.
    Whenever the family or friends/acquaintances try pressuring me, I use the long distance ruse. I tell them I have a gf in a different city, and I commute to her twice a month. This explains my seemingly single status and why I never bring a date to a party.


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