Quote Originally Posted by Mr Wombat View Post
I'm getting that there's a lot to be said in DYD's favour. He's been through a lot, he can be a useful and fun poster.

But jeez, what do you do? Maybe there's a add-on to the forum software so that people can be marked with a sticker that says "occasionally this person blows up, if he blows up at you then please ignore it".

But failing that, what do you do? I invited a dude that I had been gaming with weekly for years into my home once (picking up some gear, just hanging out, I forget why). He started prying through my stuff - opened a closed cardboard box to have a looksee what was in it. Oh yeah - he also vomited into my kitchen sink later on.

Funny story, I suppose. I was a regular heavy drinker, he wasn't. We went out, I stopped drinking at what I knew was my limit; he drank what was left of mine and then pounded some more Jaegerbombs. I guess he thought that that's just what you do.

Similar situation to DYD in a lot of ways, maybe. He was also having wife troubles. But fuck: he decided that it was ok to paw through my stuff without asking and then after he left I had to pick someone else's chunks out of my kitchen sink.

I kept gaming in the group with him. But you bet your ass he never darkened the door of my house again.

Anyway. We are grown-ups, mostly, and the other people on this forum are real people. If someone just cannot, just cannot abide by a very sensible and not particularly onerous rule: "don't insult other members", then they are not going to be welcome in very many places. Like a bloke who desperately needs accommodation in a men's shelter, but who once in the door starts fights and won't stop doing it, and after being thrown out rails at the universe that even the shelters for men are again' him.

DYD - I expect that you will never read this. But if you do: learn to restrain yourself. We all have to.
I'm getting that there's a lot to be said in DYD's favour. He's been through a lot, he can be a useful and fun poster.
You win.........

But jeez, what do you do? Maybe there's a add-on to the forum software so that people can be marked with a sticker that says "occasionally this person blows up, if he blows up at you then please ignore it".
I know exactly what you mean and where you are coming from. I am a moderator on other forums and there are members that are so well liked that they are given a million chances while others are booted after one warning. Even to the point of other mods in the mod forum encouraging to "keep up the pressure" and single that member out until they slip up and then its bye bye.

But failing that, what do you do? I invited a dude that I had been gaming with weekly for years into my home once (picking up some gear, just hanging out, I forget why). He started prying through my stuff - opened a closed cardboard box to have a looksee what was in it. Oh yeah - he also vomited into my kitchen sink later on.
Oh that asshole would've been out on his ass the second he started going through my stuff. He wouldn't have gotten the chance to vomit in my sink.

Funny story, I suppose. I was a regular heavy drinker, he wasn't. We went out, I stopped drinking at what I knew was my limit; he drank what was left of mine and then pounded some more Jaegerbombs. I guess he thought that that's just what you do.
He sounds like a problem drinker. I doubt it was his first time taking other people's drinks. I had a so called friend do that to me on my 21st birthday and he got us tossed out of the bar. I'll save the story for later.

Similar situation to DYD in a lot of ways, maybe. He was also having wife troubles. But fuck: he decided that it was ok to paw through my stuff without asking and then after he left I had to pick someone else's chunks out of my kitchen sink.
You should've made him clean that shit then called him a cab.

I kept gaming in the group with him. But you bet your ass he never darkened the door of my house again.
The old "great guy while sober but a snake when drunk" type it sounds like.

Anyway. We are grown-ups, mostly, and the other people on this forum are real people. If someone just cannot, just cannot abide by a very sensible and not particularly onerous rule: "don't insult other members", then they are not going to be welcome in very many places. Like a bloke who desperately needs accommodation in a men's shelter, but who once in the door starts fights and won't stop doing it, and after being thrown out rails at the universe that even the shelters for men are again' him.
There are shelters for men? Thats news to me. I mean I heard of them but thought it was a joke.

I have said before when members are banned that none of us really know whats going on with anyone else's life on here. There are times I signed on here pissed off and saw a post that triggered me and went off. Some times I didn't even post it and just closed the tab. We all need to vent especially about the bullshit women have done to us but there is no need to start an internet flame war. Its stupid. I mean no harm and only mean this as an example. Does anyone really want to read page after page of "Oh Mr Wombat is a stupid fag!" , "MGTOWFOREVER is a retard", "Fuck you Mr Wombat you ass munch....blah blah blah" you get the drift. Its boring and annoying. DYD was given fair notice with a 7 day ban. Most forums just outright ban. We all get out of line sometimes but like I said before I hope I get a PM from a mod that says "Hey fucker knock it off or you are gone!" if I step on some toes. My goal is to keep members but if they want to disrupt the forum then they must be sent their walking papers.