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    Every time it gets me..

    Was visiting a mate today who is in poor health.

    He has lived the life and i know he means well. He asked me should i not invest some time in finding a good woman? Everytime someone says this to me it makes me doubt my life and if i am doing something wrong.

    I do enjoy my life and i know some areas off my life that need the attention.

    Do you guys get like that too when someone says this too you?

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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    Quote Originally Posted by Doods-007 View Post
    Was visiting a mate today who is in poor health.

    He has lived the life and i know he means well.
    One thing to ponder:

    Is it the question itself that gives you pause, or is it the respect you have for the person who asks it?

    If a woman asks it, do you feel the same?
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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    You have to remember that these people come from a land of indoctrinated blue pill mindset and believe it'll 'honestly do you good'
    "Whoever has trusted a woman has trusted deceivers." .... Hesiod

    If you don't design your own life plan, chances are you'll fall into someone else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much




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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    I can imagine when a respected friend in such a vulnerable state asks you this it stirs up some emotions.

    Going red pill for me was not easy. I was big on romance. I have asked these questions myself a thousand times, and the answer for me is pretty clear., though I can never know for sure.
    All I know is this:
    - I spent countless hours trying to find the right girl. It was a bad experience.
    - I got rejected a lot
    - Whenever I was not rejected the girl did not really give me the love or respect that I was looking for.
    - I was nearly always dumped in the long run.

    This paints a clear picture. Over a long period of time all girls were unsatisfactory. Over a short period of time more than 90% were.
    Again, this is just my experience.

    And whenever I doubt myself, it is really easy to find the answer. Talk to a bunch of girls on tinder. Be skeptical. You will find more than enough red flags, more than enough red pill reminders to stop wasting your time looking for a woman.

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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    Quote Originally Posted by Unboxxed View Post
    One thing to ponder:

    Is it the question itself that gives you pause, or is it the respect you have for the person who asks it?

    If a woman asks it, do you feel the same?
    The questions itself and i know women love shaming tactics

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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    When this comes up for me it always seems like they are asking why I don't want to settle.

    I'm not hardcore AWALT, I guess I'm a unicorn hunter, but not a blind one. The game is fun if you aren't too serious about it and can afford to throw money into dinners and drinks all the time.

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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    Quote Originally Posted by Doods-007 View Post
    Was visiting a mate today who is in poor health.

    He has lived the life and i know he means well. He asked me should i not invest some time in finding a good woman? Everytime someone says this to me it makes me doubt my life and if i am doing something wrong.

    I do enjoy my life and i know some areas off my life that need the attention.

    Do you guys get like that too when someone says this too you?
    I get that shit all the time too.

    "Oh you just need some pussy! Oh you just need a good woman!...yada yada yada". I ask them why they are so interested in my life and finally figure it out. They are jealous I am a free man. No nagging, controlling, neurotic, selfish bitch to order me around. If I feel like picking up right now and going to a bar, I can without answering a questionnaire or like she is my damn warden. Where you going? Why? When will you be back? Who are you going to be with? etc etc etc. I then say to them that I have had my share of pussy and thats why I dont need anymore. I am nobody's boy toy.

    Enjoy YOUR life. Do what you want to without answering to anyone or having any regrets. Why should you feel bad for living your own life? That makes no sense.

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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    Tell him that you can't force a relationship with a woman and you are going with the flow of life looking at for yourself.

    You have to throw red pill nuggets at the blue pillers so they can start to understand your point of view.
    Last edited by Azure Nomad; January 13, 2017 at 8:54 PM.

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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    There are two worlds; the one that is advertised and the one that exists with no filter. People want to sell you the advertised world for any number of reasons.

    I used to be bothered by that question until I saw the wreckage of failed unions was too high to ignore. The way I see it, mutually beneficial relationships are pretty great WHEN they are beneficial. If that condition is no longer met, then it's time to move on. I have nothing against anyone investing in people, just know that your returns can very quickly go from break-even to negative in under 24 hours.
    because even solitude is better than evil company.” - Bartolomeo Scala

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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    My first exwife of 7 yrs (cute firebush) is still with the same guy (w/kids) after 18 years. We were friends of him and his wife (all of us were USAF AD except my ex), they filed first, then I asked for divorce a few months after. Had a fling with his ex. His ex remarried the first guy after me and still married too. Really like him as he was my friend too and knew they would be perfect together.

    Hometown GF after HS is still married to the same guy of 20 yrs. tho during that she would see me but I turned her down for sex bc she was married. Saw her when she was in town several yrs ago but she kept it friendly.

    Another now-married hometown GF (took her virginity) called me up while she was in town taking her daughter to a concert and we made out but nothing more. 23-24 years

    Even the exwife and I hooked up again after she was with her current hubby.

    So while these women were not perfect in straying, they all managed to get a guy long term. Perhaps minor transgressions help keep a marriage alive?

    Of course my evil exwife #2 at the turn of the century was my red pill. I don't ever want to be trapped like that again.

    Tho like cypher, the steak is tender juicy and delicious...

    It's possible to find a girl who wants to be your partner Indefinitely but there can be some infidelity along the way that you never know about but doesn't affect the relationship.

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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    not really... a lot has changed in the last 30-50 years...

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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    Every time someone says that to me I give them the deer in the headlights stare and say, "A good woman? What planet do THEY live on?"
    "Don't follow in my footsteps. I stepped in something."

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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    When I get that message from someone who I think genuinely cares about me (albeit misguided concern) I try to explain to them that my life feels very different to me than it looks to them. Often, I try to be tactful and polite and just say, "I chose this life, and I don't regret it. I have everything I want, and I do exactly as I please. My life does not suck...".

    For many, however, the message does not come from genuine concern for my comfort. They tell me I need to find a woman for a very different reason. They are blue pilled and will always be. Not because they necessarily believe that it is the best possible route for them, but that it's the best life to which they dare to aspire. They know I am financially way ahead of men blowing through cash trying to keep a woman happy. They know I am free. They know I am beyond the reach of the worst of a woman's intent for me. They tell me I need a woman because happily living without one challenges the things they tell themselves in their own heads to make their chosen path more tolerable for themselves. They are afraid to escape the plantation and face the unknown that comes with that freedom. They would jump at the chance to trade places with me if they only had the courage to do so.

    They have already convinced themselves that they are living the best possible life, however badly it sucks for them. And convincing themselves of this is much easier to continue doing if there is not someone like me around openly living a life that proves otherwise. Believing a lie you tell yourself is easier when the truth is out of sight. It's much harder when I'm sitting next to them online planning my weekend trip to Vegas, or Florida... I can see in their faces how uncomfortable it makes them, but this discomfort they feel is a result of their mistake, not mine.

    If they can convince me to agree with them, they can go back to that relatively easier level of denial they were in before I showed up. They can return to their blissful, willful ignorance.

    Basically, they are trying to convince me that I need a woman in order to promote their own comfort, not mine. The message they get has to be different. If I want to continue to get along with them, I may say something like, "There are not enough good women to go around, so I may have to settle for being alone rather than to get mixed up with a bad one...". It's difficult for them to argue that, and it makes them feel better about the 'good woman' that they think they have.

    If I don't need to get along with them, the message sounds more like, "Keep your fucking nose out of my fucking business". That seems to work pretty well also... :-P
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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    Quote Originally Posted by Unboxxed View Post
    One thing to ponder:

    Is it the question itself that gives you pause, or is it the respect you have for the person who asks it?

    If a woman asks it, do you feel the same?

    This answer is a fantastic example of critical thinking and effective communication skills.

    More men would avoid communication difficulties if they followed this example.

    Analyze the question, develop all applicable answers, decide upon the best possible answer based upon personal filters and then present it in a clear, concise manner.

    Solid gold with a get out of jail free card to boot!

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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    I have few takes on that.

    1. It's a friend or relative who cares about me and honesty believes what they are saying is true. Their advice is misguided, but I acknowledge their concern and I am grateful for it. I don't feel compelled to act on their advice so I shrug it aside.

    2. They are a married miserable person and want me to join them in their misery by making the same mistakes they have made. These people I just smile and ignore. It's not my problem to solve.

    3. SHE is single and wants my resources. It is a shit test. I avoid this one.

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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    Great post FrostByte. Short and concise.
    "My comfort animal is a Florida Alligator and I take great comfort every time he eats someone!" - PistolPete

    "​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    I once played the broke ass who had absolutely nothing to offer. That worked pretty well.
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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    Being married around other people who are married is like eating with people. If you choose not to eat with them they feel rejected.

    No matter what circumstances we live in we get pangs of loneliness, but that's a normal part of being human. When they arise I remind myself of how much WORSE I felt when I was in relationships.

    If one ever needs help with things there's always counsellor's or places like here one can come to, or even religion or philosophy to find solace.

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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    My default answer is there are no good women, sad but true. Don’t feel bad,it dosnt exist.

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    Re: Every time it gets me..

    Quote Originally Posted by RedDawn View Post
    No matter what circumstances we live in we get pangs of loneliness, but that's a normal part of being human. When they arise I remind myself of how much WORSE I felt when I was in relationships.
    A great mantra Red Dawn!
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